Shloka : 136

मात्रा स्वस्रा दुहित्रा वा विजने तु वय: स्थया ।

अनापदि न तै: स्थेयं कार्यं दानं न योषित: ॥ 136 ॥

અને તે ગૃહસ્થાશ્રમી પુરુષ તેમણે યુવા અવસ્થાએ યુક્ત, એવી જે પોતાની મા, બેન અને દીકરી તે સંગાથે પણ, આપત્કાળ વિના એકાંત સ્થળને વિષે ન રહેવું. અને પોતાની સ્ત્રીનું દાન કોઈને ન કરવું. ॥ 136 ॥

And the Grihastha male should not remain in a lonely place even with his mother, sister or daughter who are of young age, except for the calamities. And should not donate his wife to anybody. || 136 ||

Commentary

The Grihastha male devotees of Shri Hari should not remain in a lonely place with their mother, sister or daughter who are of young age except for the calamities; during the calamities also, if it is not possible to go somewhere else, they should remain in the least contact of the ladies as per the requirement of the time and place. Moreover, even when not alone, the mere sight of a young woman is enough to arouse the sexual desires, the sensible Grihasth male should communicate with the ladies only when required. And just like the contact of ladies that of those people who are desirous of females is also binding. Therefore, the contact of such people should be avoided.

And the men who are not completely detached from sexual desires, should marry a woman of the same caste and of good qualities and follow the code of conduct of a Grihasth. Even after marrying a woman, he should not indulge into the sexual pleasures in lustfull, uncontrolled manner, but should abide by the limitations set by God and His scriptures. And the intercourse should be performed on the days between the menstruation period only. This period has bean considered from the beginning of the menstruation till sixteenth night. Among these nights, 'even' number of nights are considered to be the best for the aspirer of a son and 'odd' number of nights are considered to be the best for the aspirer of a daughter. Among these even-odd nights, the night farther from the starting night are considered to be the best. Moreover among the sixteen nights, starting from the first night of beginning of menstruation, first four nights, the day of Shraddh and its previous day, new moon day, full moon day etc. festivals, Dashmi, Dwadashi, fasting day, Sankranti etc. dates are forbidden for an intercourse and intercourse during the day is completely forbidden.

Moreover, a Grihasth should not give away his wife as a charity, because as a result the faithfulness and devotion of a wife towards her husband are lost and by performing such act, the husband commits a great sin. Therefore, a Grihasth should never perform the charity of his wife.

As the dreams and its pleasures vanishes during wakeful state, similarly wife, son all these relations also are finished with the death of this body, i.e. they do not accompany a spiritual soul. Therefore, considering wife, sons etc. as illusive as a dream, one should not get attached to them; instead one should involve his wife, son and dependants in worship of Shri Hari and he himself should worship Shri Hari through body, mind and speech.