Shloka : 164

स्वासन्नसम्बधहीना नरा: स्पृश्या न कर्हिचित् ।

तरु़णैस्तैश्च तारु़ण्ये भाष्यं नावश्यकं विना ॥ 164 ॥

અને તે વિધવા સ્ત્રીઓ તેમણે, પોતાના સમીપ -સંબંધ વિનાના જે પુરુષ તેમનો સ્પર્શ ક્યારેય ન કરવો. અને પોતાની યુવાવસ્થાને વિષે અવશ્ય કાર્ય વિના, સમીપ-સંબંધ વિનાના જે યુવાન પુરુષ, તેમની સાથે ક્યારેય પણ બોલવું નહિ. ॥ 164 ॥

And a widow should never touch a man who is not a close relative. And during her young age, she should never speak with a young man without any reason who is not a close relative. || 164 ||

Commentary

A widow should never touch knowingly any other men except her father, brother, son etc. close relatives i.e. in blood relations. And she should not speak to them and she should not even look at them. And if the close relatives follow their code of conduct, and protect that of others, then during emergencies if a widow touches, talks, sees them, then it is not an offence. And if she touches a man knowingly or unknowingly, who is not a close relative, then she should observe the penance. And a woman who is widowed in her young age, should not go alone on the road even with her brother etc. relatives who are of young age and should not sit with them in a lonely place. And she should not look at any man with lustful desires (while passing on the way if men are around she should not stare at them willingly with the feeling that 'he is good looking!'). And a widow should not go to see the wedding ceremonies, a group of travelling men who are from other place and are passing by, army of a king, dance, music picnics and passer by prince like males who are adorned with good clothes and ornaments. Moreover, a widow should never listen to the stories related to sexual pleasures and should not narrate them. Except for illness etc. emergencies, she should always have meals only once, (in the evening) at the end of the day. She should not sleep on a cot and she should not massage her body with oil. Moreover, she should not have bath naked and should not use scented materials like sandalwood oil and essence of champa, rose etc. She should not use spices like cardamom etc.